deviant
06-09-2007, 04:23 AM
The No-Excuses Truth
A friend has recommended the book, "He's Just Not That Into You", a number one best seller written by the writers of the TV series Sex in the City, Liz Tuccillo and Greg Behrendt. This funny yet entertaining book has been recommended by Oprah herself. It is a book about understanding mixed messages and mixed signals given by men. Although this book is written for women, some lessons can be used by men as well. After reading this book, you'll vow never to have pseudo-relationships, no more murky, no more gray, no more unidentified and no more undeclared relationships. Below are some of the quips/ lessons you can learn from the book.
QUIPS
* Wasting time with the wrong person is just time wasted.
* Hanging out, chillin' out together or meeting up is not dating!
* If a dude isn't calling you when he says he will, or making sure that he's dating you, then you already have your answer. Stop making excuses for him; his actions are screaming the truth: He's just not that into you.
* If a sane person really likes you, there ain't nothing that's going to get in his/her way. And if he's/ she's not sane, why would you want him/her?
* If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will.
* "I don't want to ruin the friendship" excuse is a racket. It works so well because it seems so wise.
* An excuse is a polite rejection.
* Why would you want a person who hasn't even extended you the energy of a phone call or text.
* The word "busy" is a load of crap. People who like you are never too busy to get what they want. If they were into you, you would be a bright spot in their horribly busy day. Which would be a day that they would never be too busy to call or text you.
* If I like you, I don't forget you, ever. Don't you want a person who'll forget all the other things in his/ her life before he/ she forgets you?
* If a person is not calling you , you are not on his/her mind.
* Stop making excuses for the person! (Maybe he's/ she's busy, maybe he/she lost his/her phone, wala siya siguro load, nakatulog siguro, may sakit siguro...may be he/she's intimidated, maybe he/ she doesn't want to ruin our friendship, etc., etc.)
* If a person is choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he/ she doesn't respect your feelings and needs.
* There's nothing worse than having no answer, in business, friendships, and especially romatic relationships. But the bad news is NO ANSWER is your answer.
* If the person you love cannot freely spend his/ her days thinking about you and being with you, it's not real love.
* If you are not able to love freely, it's not really love.
* If you really love someone, you want to do things to make that person happy.
* There are subtle degrees of abuse. There are many shades of Mr. or Miss Wrong. And these guys that we are talking about. They are not just assholes. They can be NICE sometimes, too.
* Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with.
* You deserve to be with someone nice who is nice to you all the time. You have to be nice to them, too.
* You already have one asshole. You don't need another.
On Cheating
* There's never going to be a good excuse for cheating.
* "It just happened." Remember, cheating doesn't just "happen". Nobody just slips into a sexual relationship with someone. It was planned and executed with full knowledge that it could end your relationship.
* Cheating is bad. Not knowing why you cheated is even worse. Don't date any person who doesn't even know why they do things.
* When someone cheats on you, they have decided to blatantly disrespect a very important decision you two made together. They've chosen to do this without your knowledge, thereby adding lies, deception and secrecy to your relationship.
* Cheating is a complete betrayal of trust.
"many have lived happily because of the line "i love you",
but there are more who have shed tears because of the same line.
WHY?
because there are more tongues that lie,
than hearts that love well."
A friend has recommended the book, "He's Just Not That Into You", a number one best seller written by the writers of the TV series Sex in the City, Liz Tuccillo and Greg Behrendt. This funny yet entertaining book has been recommended by Oprah herself. It is a book about understanding mixed messages and mixed signals given by men. Although this book is written for women, some lessons can be used by men as well. After reading this book, you'll vow never to have pseudo-relationships, no more murky, no more gray, no more unidentified and no more undeclared relationships. Below are some of the quips/ lessons you can learn from the book.
QUIPS
* Wasting time with the wrong person is just time wasted.
* Hanging out, chillin' out together or meeting up is not dating!
* If a dude isn't calling you when he says he will, or making sure that he's dating you, then you already have your answer. Stop making excuses for him; his actions are screaming the truth: He's just not that into you.
* If a sane person really likes you, there ain't nothing that's going to get in his/her way. And if he's/ she's not sane, why would you want him/her?
* If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will.
* "I don't want to ruin the friendship" excuse is a racket. It works so well because it seems so wise.
* An excuse is a polite rejection.
* Why would you want a person who hasn't even extended you the energy of a phone call or text.
* The word "busy" is a load of crap. People who like you are never too busy to get what they want. If they were into you, you would be a bright spot in their horribly busy day. Which would be a day that they would never be too busy to call or text you.
* If I like you, I don't forget you, ever. Don't you want a person who'll forget all the other things in his/ her life before he/ she forgets you?
* If a person is not calling you , you are not on his/her mind.
* Stop making excuses for the person! (Maybe he's/ she's busy, maybe he/she lost his/her phone, wala siya siguro load, nakatulog siguro, may sakit siguro...may be he/she's intimidated, maybe he/ she doesn't want to ruin our friendship, etc., etc.)
* If a person is choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he/ she doesn't respect your feelings and needs.
* There's nothing worse than having no answer, in business, friendships, and especially romatic relationships. But the bad news is NO ANSWER is your answer.
* If the person you love cannot freely spend his/ her days thinking about you and being with you, it's not real love.
* If you are not able to love freely, it's not really love.
* If you really love someone, you want to do things to make that person happy.
* There are subtle degrees of abuse. There are many shades of Mr. or Miss Wrong. And these guys that we are talking about. They are not just assholes. They can be NICE sometimes, too.
* Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with.
* You deserve to be with someone nice who is nice to you all the time. You have to be nice to them, too.
* You already have one asshole. You don't need another.
On Cheating
* There's never going to be a good excuse for cheating.
* "It just happened." Remember, cheating doesn't just "happen". Nobody just slips into a sexual relationship with someone. It was planned and executed with full knowledge that it could end your relationship.
* Cheating is bad. Not knowing why you cheated is even worse. Don't date any person who doesn't even know why they do things.
* When someone cheats on you, they have decided to blatantly disrespect a very important decision you two made together. They've chosen to do this without your knowledge, thereby adding lies, deception and secrecy to your relationship.
* Cheating is a complete betrayal of trust.
"many have lived happily because of the line "i love you",
but there are more who have shed tears because of the same line.
WHY?
because there are more tongues that lie,
than hearts that love well."