deviant
04-24-2007, 03:15 PM
cosmo got real guys to confess their deepest darkest desires and hidden hotspots.use this info wisely to make your man moan,whimper-- and absolutely worship you.
“I dated this woman Marga who I swear could read my mind in bed,” remembers Sam, 28. “It was like she had a personal instruction manual to my body.” When Sam asked Margaret how she was so in tune with his desires, she said that a key to a man’s passion lies in his eyes. “By gauging my gaze—intense, soft, dreamy—she knew what kind of mood I was in and how I wanted to be touched.”
To find out more tips like the one Margaret’s guy gave up, we talked to dozens of male informants and got them to spill men’s classified sexual wish lists. Read on and discover all the tricks and treats he’s hoping you’ll find out about.
1. He wants you to keep your clothes on.
Well, one item of clothing, at least. “Feeling something soft against my skin drives me wild,” confesses Bill, 29. “My girlfriend has this big sweater that’s so sensual, I beg her to keep it on when we’re having sex. Plus, since she’s sort of covered up, it makes me feel lucky to be getting underneath there.”
2. Your tresses can tease him beyond control.
Your hair is a virtual pleasure playground to men. Especially if you lie him down and brush your strands over his naked body. “It really feels good—I can’t explain why,” says Peter, 33.
3. There’s a better way to grasp his you-know-what.“Most women hold a man’s penis with their knuckles pointing up towards his stomach, particularly when giving oral sex,” says Howard J. Rupert Jr., Ph.D., executive director of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. But the underside of the penis is the most sensitive area. Switching your grip so your fingers point down lets the knuckle ridges on the inside of your palm give him maximum stimulation.
4. He doesn’t want his nipples neglected.“I get this electric current when they’re caressed,” says Alex, 32, “but it’s too weird to ask a woman to kiss my nipples, so when she takes the lead, I’m so psyched.” Just fondle and lick them with the same speed and pressure you like yours touched.
5. He loves getting the silent treatment.
There’s nothing hotter than a woman undressing without saying a word. “A girlfriend once slowly, silently stripped for me while I was talking on the phone with my father,” says Lloyd, 24. “I turned into a stuttering fool answering every question with ‘Great, things are going really great, Dad.’ She and I did it right there in the kitchen as soon as I hung up.”
6. He’s hoping you’ll hunt for his treasure spots.“I love it when a woman finds one of my hot zones on her own—it’s like she took the trouble to figure me out,” says Carlo, 25. Tickling a guy by gently raking your nails over his skin is a surefire way to find out where he’ll be responsive in bed. “If I jump when you touch me in a specific area, then I’ll go crazy if you kiss me there later,” promises Rick, 29.
7. He doesn’t want to go all the way all the time.“Though it seems like we want intercourse 24-7, occasionally holding out to build anticipation can be even more erotic,” says P.J., 25. To fuel his fire, tease him with a make-out session or two that doesn’t progress beyond a little frontal fondling. “My girlfriend once pretended that it was her first time,” says Tim, 33. “I never felt so lusty in my life. She was such a good actress, I wasn’t sure if I was gonna get lucky or not.”
8. A sexy souvenir will stroke his desire-fire all day.
A scratch, a tiny nibble, a secret hidden hickey—these mementos keep your racy rendezvous lingering in his mind. “My girlfriend sucks my bottom lip everytime we kiss during sex,” says Benjo, 30. “The tingle I feel the next day drives me nuts with the amazing memories.” Leaving something behind after a romantic romp also works wonders. “I’ll find a pair of my girlfriend’s lacy panties intentionally left behind in the sheets after she visits me,” says Paul, 27. “It makes me crazy thinking about her while we’re still apart.”
9. Men can get a love high just from your thighs.
Guys love basking in the smoothness of your legs. “It’s like I’m in heaven feeling her silky skin against me,” says Eli, 32. They also use your stems as a secret god-I’m-good gauge. “Feeling them tremble out of control secretly makes me feel like, well yeah, a total stud,” says George, 22.
10. A man’s ear is his number-two erogenous zone.“I was never into getting big ear action until I knew how to do it right—or should I say light,” says Simon, 23. The trick that drives most men mad: Gently move the very tip of your tongue up and down the entire length of his outer ear, dip behind it to where the lobe meets his neck, then tickle the inner area with little circles.
11. Men melt under a tender touch.“Women assume guys like intense back massages, but sometimes it’s the gentlest caress that’s the best,” says Adam, 28. To send him into bliss, kiss him slowly and softly from the top of his neck down to his lower back, then gently tickle his arms and legs with your fingertips.
12. But they also like to be manhandled.“Being ballsy enough to initiate some action tells me she’s out for pleasure,” says Nate, 30. “And that’s really exciting.” To make it hot for him, yank him down onto the couch for a quickie.
13. Guys never let go of their teen fantasies.“Sex was so new and illicit,” says Samuel, 30, “and we were perpetually turned on, which is why those sexual fantasies still make us so hot.” To get your Romero as randy as he was back then, ask him about his hottest high school fantasy, then act it out.
14. Touching his torso flicks his switch.
“I had a girlfriend who would kiss my nipples, and as she did, her hair would tickle the edge of my chest,” says Corin, 24. “It was that outer sensation that really got me going.” To hit this sensitive spot, draw circles with your nails on the skin right below his armpit. “I loved when my old girlfriend spiraled her tongue up and down my sides,” adds Gary, 33. “It’s an area I wish more women would explore.”
15. Guys have a closeted love for “girlie” sex props.“We talk about our penchant for handcuffs and whipped cream, but what we’ll never publicly admit is that we also love the sissy stuff like scented lotions, silk sheets, and mood-enhancing candles,” says Neil, 28. Add feathers, massage oils, or scarves to your sex play and he’ll absolutely adore you—just don’t talk about it beforehand.
16. Guys want you to gasp when you touch it.“We would never ask, but secretly we all want to know that you’re impressed with our equipment,” says Jonas, 30. “I’m not looking for a canned comment like ‘Wow, do you have a license for that thing?’ but a quick sigh always pumps me up.”
17. Never underestimate the power of dirty pillow talk.
“When I hear a saucy sentence slip from my girlfriend’s mouth, it jolts the intensity of what we’re doing like 10 notches,” confirms Jack, 25. And you don’t even need to sound like a 1-900 operator. “I get turned on just hearing a word my girlfriend wouldn’t say in front of her mother,” says Gino, 25.
18. Guys love when you give yourself a hand.
“A woman placing her hands on her own goods while we make love gets me just as turned-on as if she were busy touching me,” says Robert, 24. “And it gives me freedom to explore her body while she’s keeping the fire going.”
19. He hungers for head strokes.“We love feeling your hands run through our hair,” reveals Kevin, 25. Gently rake your fingers from his forehead down to his neck.
20. Giving him a sneak peak will get him drooling.
“Women don’t realize just how much a man’s sexual urges are driven by visual stimuli,” says Raul. Simply letting your guy spy you fresh out of the shower will feed his voyeuristic needs.
21. Touching his limbs makes him lusty.
To rev his motor, run your toes along his calves as you work his arms with your hands. “The first time my girl did that, I thought another woman was in bed with us,” says David, 25. “And that’s a guy’s fantasy.”
22. The fellas fall for your heavy breathers.“When a guy feels your warm, moist breath on his body, he pretty much melts,” says Jason, 31. “My favorite trick: When a woman barely touches me with her lips and gives me that steamy pleasure down my neck or along my spine.”
23. Guys have G-spots too.“Between his scrotum and his anus is the perineum, a patch of supersensitive skin,” says Raul. So the next time you’re touching his penis, slide your hand down and gently palm his scrotum. “This places your fingertips directly below his perineum,” says Raul. Then experiment by rubbing the area using light and heavy strokes.
24. Men freak about their physique too.
“I’m never sure if my lover is enjoying what she’s touching…or mentally critiquing my soft spots,” says Mike, 27. To boost his confidence, graze over possible hang ups (love handles, thighs, arms, stomach) and dwell on the area he flaunts: his back, shoulders, and any part that’s tattooed.
25. Keep him guessing and he’ll go gaga.
Guys get weak when you change your appearance for them. “My girlfriend comes to bed in a cute baseball jersey one night and a see-through nightie the next,” says Ian, 28. “She’s like a sexual superhero who can change forms.”
“I dated this woman Marga who I swear could read my mind in bed,” remembers Sam, 28. “It was like she had a personal instruction manual to my body.” When Sam asked Margaret how she was so in tune with his desires, she said that a key to a man’s passion lies in his eyes. “By gauging my gaze—intense, soft, dreamy—she knew what kind of mood I was in and how I wanted to be touched.”
To find out more tips like the one Margaret’s guy gave up, we talked to dozens of male informants and got them to spill men’s classified sexual wish lists. Read on and discover all the tricks and treats he’s hoping you’ll find out about.
1. He wants you to keep your clothes on.
Well, one item of clothing, at least. “Feeling something soft against my skin drives me wild,” confesses Bill, 29. “My girlfriend has this big sweater that’s so sensual, I beg her to keep it on when we’re having sex. Plus, since she’s sort of covered up, it makes me feel lucky to be getting underneath there.”
2. Your tresses can tease him beyond control.
Your hair is a virtual pleasure playground to men. Especially if you lie him down and brush your strands over his naked body. “It really feels good—I can’t explain why,” says Peter, 33.
3. There’s a better way to grasp his you-know-what.“Most women hold a man’s penis with their knuckles pointing up towards his stomach, particularly when giving oral sex,” says Howard J. Rupert Jr., Ph.D., executive director of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. But the underside of the penis is the most sensitive area. Switching your grip so your fingers point down lets the knuckle ridges on the inside of your palm give him maximum stimulation.
4. He doesn’t want his nipples neglected.“I get this electric current when they’re caressed,” says Alex, 32, “but it’s too weird to ask a woman to kiss my nipples, so when she takes the lead, I’m so psyched.” Just fondle and lick them with the same speed and pressure you like yours touched.
5. He loves getting the silent treatment.
There’s nothing hotter than a woman undressing without saying a word. “A girlfriend once slowly, silently stripped for me while I was talking on the phone with my father,” says Lloyd, 24. “I turned into a stuttering fool answering every question with ‘Great, things are going really great, Dad.’ She and I did it right there in the kitchen as soon as I hung up.”
6. He’s hoping you’ll hunt for his treasure spots.“I love it when a woman finds one of my hot zones on her own—it’s like she took the trouble to figure me out,” says Carlo, 25. Tickling a guy by gently raking your nails over his skin is a surefire way to find out where he’ll be responsive in bed. “If I jump when you touch me in a specific area, then I’ll go crazy if you kiss me there later,” promises Rick, 29.
7. He doesn’t want to go all the way all the time.“Though it seems like we want intercourse 24-7, occasionally holding out to build anticipation can be even more erotic,” says P.J., 25. To fuel his fire, tease him with a make-out session or two that doesn’t progress beyond a little frontal fondling. “My girlfriend once pretended that it was her first time,” says Tim, 33. “I never felt so lusty in my life. She was such a good actress, I wasn’t sure if I was gonna get lucky or not.”
8. A sexy souvenir will stroke his desire-fire all day.
A scratch, a tiny nibble, a secret hidden hickey—these mementos keep your racy rendezvous lingering in his mind. “My girlfriend sucks my bottom lip everytime we kiss during sex,” says Benjo, 30. “The tingle I feel the next day drives me nuts with the amazing memories.” Leaving something behind after a romantic romp also works wonders. “I’ll find a pair of my girlfriend’s lacy panties intentionally left behind in the sheets after she visits me,” says Paul, 27. “It makes me crazy thinking about her while we’re still apart.”
9. Men can get a love high just from your thighs.
Guys love basking in the smoothness of your legs. “It’s like I’m in heaven feeling her silky skin against me,” says Eli, 32. They also use your stems as a secret god-I’m-good gauge. “Feeling them tremble out of control secretly makes me feel like, well yeah, a total stud,” says George, 22.
10. A man’s ear is his number-two erogenous zone.“I was never into getting big ear action until I knew how to do it right—or should I say light,” says Simon, 23. The trick that drives most men mad: Gently move the very tip of your tongue up and down the entire length of his outer ear, dip behind it to where the lobe meets his neck, then tickle the inner area with little circles.
11. Men melt under a tender touch.“Women assume guys like intense back massages, but sometimes it’s the gentlest caress that’s the best,” says Adam, 28. To send him into bliss, kiss him slowly and softly from the top of his neck down to his lower back, then gently tickle his arms and legs with your fingertips.
12. But they also like to be manhandled.“Being ballsy enough to initiate some action tells me she’s out for pleasure,” says Nate, 30. “And that’s really exciting.” To make it hot for him, yank him down onto the couch for a quickie.
13. Guys never let go of their teen fantasies.“Sex was so new and illicit,” says Samuel, 30, “and we were perpetually turned on, which is why those sexual fantasies still make us so hot.” To get your Romero as randy as he was back then, ask him about his hottest high school fantasy, then act it out.
14. Touching his torso flicks his switch.
“I had a girlfriend who would kiss my nipples, and as she did, her hair would tickle the edge of my chest,” says Corin, 24. “It was that outer sensation that really got me going.” To hit this sensitive spot, draw circles with your nails on the skin right below his armpit. “I loved when my old girlfriend spiraled her tongue up and down my sides,” adds Gary, 33. “It’s an area I wish more women would explore.”
15. Guys have a closeted love for “girlie” sex props.“We talk about our penchant for handcuffs and whipped cream, but what we’ll never publicly admit is that we also love the sissy stuff like scented lotions, silk sheets, and mood-enhancing candles,” says Neil, 28. Add feathers, massage oils, or scarves to your sex play and he’ll absolutely adore you—just don’t talk about it beforehand.
16. Guys want you to gasp when you touch it.“We would never ask, but secretly we all want to know that you’re impressed with our equipment,” says Jonas, 30. “I’m not looking for a canned comment like ‘Wow, do you have a license for that thing?’ but a quick sigh always pumps me up.”
17. Never underestimate the power of dirty pillow talk.
“When I hear a saucy sentence slip from my girlfriend’s mouth, it jolts the intensity of what we’re doing like 10 notches,” confirms Jack, 25. And you don’t even need to sound like a 1-900 operator. “I get turned on just hearing a word my girlfriend wouldn’t say in front of her mother,” says Gino, 25.
18. Guys love when you give yourself a hand.
“A woman placing her hands on her own goods while we make love gets me just as turned-on as if she were busy touching me,” says Robert, 24. “And it gives me freedom to explore her body while she’s keeping the fire going.”
19. He hungers for head strokes.“We love feeling your hands run through our hair,” reveals Kevin, 25. Gently rake your fingers from his forehead down to his neck.
20. Giving him a sneak peak will get him drooling.
“Women don’t realize just how much a man’s sexual urges are driven by visual stimuli,” says Raul. Simply letting your guy spy you fresh out of the shower will feed his voyeuristic needs.
21. Touching his limbs makes him lusty.
To rev his motor, run your toes along his calves as you work his arms with your hands. “The first time my girl did that, I thought another woman was in bed with us,” says David, 25. “And that’s a guy’s fantasy.”
22. The fellas fall for your heavy breathers.“When a guy feels your warm, moist breath on his body, he pretty much melts,” says Jason, 31. “My favorite trick: When a woman barely touches me with her lips and gives me that steamy pleasure down my neck or along my spine.”
23. Guys have G-spots too.“Between his scrotum and his anus is the perineum, a patch of supersensitive skin,” says Raul. So the next time you’re touching his penis, slide your hand down and gently palm his scrotum. “This places your fingertips directly below his perineum,” says Raul. Then experiment by rubbing the area using light and heavy strokes.
24. Men freak about their physique too.
“I’m never sure if my lover is enjoying what she’s touching…or mentally critiquing my soft spots,” says Mike, 27. To boost his confidence, graze over possible hang ups (love handles, thighs, arms, stomach) and dwell on the area he flaunts: his back, shoulders, and any part that’s tattooed.
25. Keep him guessing and he’ll go gaga.
Guys get weak when you change your appearance for them. “My girlfriend comes to bed in a cute baseball jersey one night and a see-through nightie the next,” says Ian, 28. “She’s like a sexual superhero who can change forms.”